5 Signs Your Relationship Is at Risk

5 signs to look out for...

By Tarot.com Staff

While it's perfectly reasonable for the shine of a new relationship to become polished and even a little dull over time, certain telltale signs indicate that your bond is deteriorating. You won't want to ignore these signals! By examining the weak spots in your relationship, you may be able to act in time, before anger, apathy, and resentment tarnish your love.

Sign 1: Alone in your thoughts

Having separate interests and hobbies is healthy! However, total disengagement hints at deeper issues. Ask yourself if you feel alone in your relationship, even when your partner is sitting right next to you. Do you share quiet moments together, or are you each left to your own devices (literally and figuratively) while occupying space on the same couch?

Take the time to examine if you feel comfortable and secure ... or if you're feeling alienated. Check in with your partner and share your concerns. Do you both feel the distance, and what can you do to bring affection and connection back into the relationship?

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Sign 2: Anger, anger, everywhere

Have you reached the point where anger simmers right below the surface and bubbles up at the slightest provocation? Each couple has its hot spots that tend to ignite the flame of anger, but you should take note when every mild hiccup becomes a reason to argue. If you feel as if you and your partner are fighting more than not, take a step back and examine what is causing the arguments. Are you picking fights to cause a reaction, or are you addressing critical issues in a respectful way that encourages resolution?

Communication is always key, but if you're doing more yelling than actual conversing, there is a good chance that no one is listening. Try taking a timeout to cool off. After both of you have tamed your anger, come back to the table for a discussion. Are you even still angry, and if so, do you need to address deeper issues?

Sign 3: Winning at all costs

Has your relationship evolved into a competition that you can't afford to lose? Try to remember that you two are a partnership and should tackle the problems of home, hearth, and the world together. If you engage in constant competition with your partner and keep score over every last little thing, you will be too busy trying not to lose that you won't have any energy left to devote to your partnership.

Take a step back from the competition and cheer your partner on from the sidelines. Don't be afraid to ask the same of them. Each of you should take turns being the star player and the cheerleader.

Sign 4: Airing dirty laundry

Each relationship should have a circle of intimacy, and you need to respect those boundaries. Don't be afraid to vent to a trusted friend, but be cautious and don't fall into the trap of bad-mouthing your partner to anyone who will listen. While you're venting, you are only telling one side of the story -- and most often, you're not going to remember to loop this outsider in to the eventual resolution. You don't want to create a situation where your friend begins to think poorly of your partner, even after you've forgiven and moved forward.

If you find yourself oversharing your frustrations and relationship difficulties, put yourself in your lover's shoes. How would you feel if your partner broadcast your dirty laundry?

Sign 5: Breaking down, not building up

A little teasing can go a long way to building intimacy, but you always need to be laughing together. If other areas of your relationship are in disrepair, it's easy to take teasing personally and have it cross the line from loving banter to insulting mockery -- especially when it happens outside the home.

These five telltale signs can signal that your relationship is at risk for becoming unhealthy and toxic. If these seem all-too-familiar, then now is the time to ask yourself if the connection can still be saved ... or if it's time to say goodbye. However, you don't have to make this decision on your own!

A Tarot reading focused on revitalizing your relationship may help guide you to the right choice. Insights from the cards may help you see all aspects of your relationship, including the hidden energies that are creating tension or the genuine emotions and motives of your partner. These valuable insights can help you make a wise decision when your heart is on the line.

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